There’s a short film called It’s Not About the Nail that cracks me up every time. A woman is explaining to her partner how she has this terrible pressure in her head, how all her sweaters keep getting snagged, how nothing seems to be going right. And the whole time, there is a nail sticking out of her forehead. He tries to point it out. She says, “It’s not about the nail.”

If you haven’t seen it, go ahead and watch it. It’s two minutes long and it’s hilarious. Also painfully accurate.

Here’s the thing: we all have a nail. And most of us have gotten really good at explaining why our headaches have nothing to do with it.