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My Rescue Story

I shared this message at Generations Church in 2020. Sharing my story in a small Celebrate Recovery group on a Friday night is one thing — standing up on a Sunday morning in front of hundreds of people and saying it out loud is something else entirely — and every time I revisit it, part of me still wants to hit delete. In it, I talk openly about my struggle with sexual addiction, what recovery looks like, and why I believe the most important step any of us can take is the one where we stop pretending we’ve got it all together.

It’s scary to put this stuff out there. But that’s kind of the whole point.

You can watch/listen to the full talk on Generations Church’s website, or if you’d rather read it, the transcript is below.

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Oversharing Is Caring

If you’ve been following my blog lately, you may have noticed a pattern. I wrote about my approval addiction. I wrote about my ongoing battle with resentment. I’m working on a post where I share the full transcript of a talk I gave at my church about my sexual addiction (it’s now published: My Rescue Story). If you’re thinking my blog is starting to sound like a therapy session… fair point.

So why do I keep posting my L’s? Why does a guy who literally wrote about being an approval addict keep hitting publish on posts that are almost guaranteed to make at least a few people think less of him?

I’m asking myself the same thing.

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You Have a Nail in Your Head

There’s a short film called It’s Not About the Nail that cracks me up every time. A woman is explaining to her partner how she has this terrible pressure in her head, how all her sweaters keep getting snagged, how nothing seems to be going right. And the whole time, there is a nail sticking out of her forehead. He tries to point it out. She says, “It’s not about the nail.”

If you haven’t seen it, go ahead and watch it. It’s two minutes long and it’s hilarious. Also painfully accurate.

Here’s the thing: we all have a nail. And most of us have gotten really good at explaining why our headaches have nothing to do with it.

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